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New years eve has been passed us by and we are about to welcome April. Wow, we shouldn't get shocked of how fast time has flown, should we? At least, there are more than 300 days remaining until the end of the year. A long road we’ve been walking on is also ready to surprise us more. So, lets welcome another challenging yet scenic views ahead of us with excitement! Cheers!
Anyway, in this post, i won’t share about resolutions, strategic plans to strive my goals or anything else related to new year things. Besides, i want to share some points which need to be highlighted most so i won’t repeat the same mistake in the next 300 days. One certain thing is that by writing this, i want to show you which part we have in common as a human. Naah! It is not about making mistakes or getting failed for many times. It is more about us, about particular emotion we have in us whenever we look back to our past. Yes! This post will take you back to last year journey and bring some points along so we can learn from it.
To be honest, every time we involuntarily get transported back in time, we will feel certain feelings that mostly, lead us to sadness or guilty moment. I state “mostly” because some of us often link flashback to powerful memories which cause traumatic experiences. Then, do we have to stop doing flashback? For me, no, we don’t! Flashback doesn’t always bring us down (only if we know how to control it). In some cases, we will definitely feel the opposite, like there is a happy or exciting feelings popping into our mind whenever we recall our past experiences.
The flashback itself, according to wikipedia is a psychological phenomenon in which an individual has a sudden, usually powerful, re-experiencing of a past experience or elements of a past experience. These experiences can be happy, sad, exciting, or any other emotion one can consider. From the definition above, we could define flashback as part of us that may be related to emotions or traumatic experiences and indeed, it is undeniable. Everyone can not avoid it. One thing that each of us should underline about flashback is how we react to it, whether it can bring us up or down, it depends solely on us.
So, how’s 2018 been for me? Do not worry! I just got back from 2018 safely and got some reviews in mind. For me, 2018 has been a kind of year that i could not claim it as the best year i have ever had but it is one that i consider to be the most complicated year in which various tracks existed. The soul lived in me even might change continuously along the year in order to get well-adjusted to the track. In the other side, annual problems like insecurity, anxiety and thing related to self-doubt have become more common since they often come to me in daily basis. That’s okay for sure! I might get down and stress out about many things but thanks to them, they have improved me in many ways. Yet, 2018 is really something! There are many good things happened that i should be grateful for, one of them is attending my chairmate’s wedding ceremony and being able to meet old friends. There are also many insighful convos, funny scenes and silly jokes saved in mind. Then, how am i supposed to describe 2018 in a very simple way? Amazing year? Wonderful year? It is a challenging and blessing year instead!
And, this is it, my highlighted-point of 2018:
Follow the timeline! : I'm a deadliner and i have been getting used to it since the first time i became colleague student. I like to make a timeline though, such a contrast, i know. In fact, i got assignments done on time back then so i became more common to work in a rush without sacrificing quality. I was fine until i found out that i was sick of being deadliner last year. The timeline i used to follow has become useless, i ruined it. Yes, i realised that these past years i had followed the deadline, not the timeline. For me, the word deadline sounds scarier than timeline since it is linked to powerful impact. I might make timeline, i even write it down and design it with colorful pens but i am lack of commitment to follow it. So, this year, i have to build unwavering commitment to follow the timeline i made. I have also come to the realization that timeline is not just about words but more than that, it is important thing that related to long-term framework. One thing that i should remember is that following the timeline will help me to stay focus on my life goals. What i mean by that is by following the timeline, i will become more aware of the possibility of doubting my goals in the midst of journey.
Be calm! : 2018 is such a rush race for me, i did most works (7/10) in a rush tempo and got things done like there was someone ran after me. Of course, this has something to do with the habit of mine that i tend to start work when the deadline is almost up. Then i will get my work done in a hurry (in a way that you will find it fast or even super fast but still prioritize quality) since i realize that completion deadline is fast approaching. In the other side, i am kind of people who will get upset when i have to work fast but i am surrounded by a slow-paced and less-cooperative environment. As the result, i will end up doing all things alone and walk even faster to make sure that everything is done in time. Therefore, this year, i want to master calmness and control emotions so i could enjoy the journey more.
Love yourself! : It is not a rare case for people to have encountered comparison in life, and i am not the exception. There’s time when i start to compare myself to others and imagine what would it be if i become someone else. Besides, i often question my character; particularly about how can some natures live within me and why such tendencies grow inside me. Sometimes, i also wonder about people's projection on me and i don’t know why, i always end up assuming that they don't like me or hey, i feel like i'm not a good person to be friends with. Perhaps i am adoring others much that i find it easy to compare them to me or build negative assumption of me rather than embrace what i already have. Thats okay! Dont worry about me! I am glad to realize that i constantly get improved as i have become more familar with comparison. I even had my mind attached to this words, “You are not everyones cup of tea” already and understood its meaning much better than before. However, i still have to ensure my well-being and my wholeness so i will be more aware of any forms of comparison; then stop it right away! Ensuring my well-being can also mean that i have to love myself more and be proud of whatever i have in life. Just like Bernard Grasset said, “To love is to stop comparing”. By loving myself more, i will be less comparing myself to others. By loving myself more, i will be realizing that i have enough then i find contentment by cherising them everyday. I will also treat people as well as i treat myself and be care less about what they might think of me. Thats what i must do by now!
Overcome your insecurity! : Finally, this is the key which plays the main role in causing some points above. If i have to set these highlighted-point in causal order, then it will be this way: insecurity comes, it affects me on how i see myself, then i start comparing myself to others which later lead me to get stuck in the state of not knowing what to do and when i have regained my consciousnes, i will end up doing things in a hurry. Thats it! Insecurity is a strong and unavoidable feeling existed in me. Yet, it is not only me, everyone also has their own forms of insecurity to overcome with. What makes us different from each other is how we react to it. We can not avoid it, we can only overcome it so it wont destroy us. The points above have actually answered the question, "How to overcome insecurity?" Of course, we can try to overcome it by loving ourselves more, owning our progress, playing our role well and understand that we are not everyone's cup of tea. Like i said before, whatever people might think about us or their response to us, let it be their business! Dont ever let their business intefere our focus! Therefore, in this year, i will learn about how to overcome my insecurity more and implement them better than i did last year.
Okay, that is my highligted-point, in a bit long explanation. To be honest, i feel so much better after i write them down here. Besides, i believe that highlighting some points of last year journey will be a powerful reminders in terms of goal setting and personal growth for us. It will help us to avoid the repetition of the past mistakes. It will also follow us, evolve with us and later make impacful change for us if only we let it live! Yes, let it live within us because that’s the only way to always remember what and why we mark or highligh some points in our previous journey.
Do you have your highlighted-points? If you have, then don't hesitate to share! By sharing it, you do not just help me and people out there to remember our own points, you also help yourself to make those words keep alive in you. So, go find your highlighted-points! Share them! And, let them live!
Last but not least, do not forget to be happy and live your life to the fullest! Happy 2019, everyone :)
Warm regard,
New years eve has been passed us by and we are about to welcome April. Wow, we shouldn't get shocked of how fast time has flown, should we? At least, there are more than 300 days remaining until the end of the year. A long road we’ve been walking on is also ready to surprise us more. So, lets welcome another challenging yet scenic views ahead of us with excitement! Cheers!
Anyway, in this post, i won’t share about resolutions, strategic plans to strive my goals or anything else related to new year things. Besides, i want to share some points which need to be highlighted most so i won’t repeat the same mistake in the next 300 days. One certain thing is that by writing this, i want to show you which part we have in common as a human. Naah! It is not about making mistakes or getting failed for many times. It is more about us, about particular emotion we have in us whenever we look back to our past. Yes! This post will take you back to last year journey and bring some points along so we can learn from it.
To be honest, every time we involuntarily get transported back in time, we will feel certain feelings that mostly, lead us to sadness or guilty moment. I state “mostly” because some of us often link flashback to powerful memories which cause traumatic experiences. Then, do we have to stop doing flashback? For me, no, we don’t! Flashback doesn’t always bring us down (only if we know how to control it). In some cases, we will definitely feel the opposite, like there is a happy or exciting feelings popping into our mind whenever we recall our past experiences.
The flashback itself, according to wikipedia is a psychological phenomenon in which an individual has a sudden, usually powerful, re-experiencing of a past experience or elements of a past experience. These experiences can be happy, sad, exciting, or any other emotion one can consider. From the definition above, we could define flashback as part of us that may be related to emotions or traumatic experiences and indeed, it is undeniable. Everyone can not avoid it. One thing that each of us should underline about flashback is how we react to it, whether it can bring us up or down, it depends solely on us.
So, how’s 2018 been for me? Do not worry! I just got back from 2018 safely and got some reviews in mind. For me, 2018 has been a kind of year that i could not claim it as the best year i have ever had but it is one that i consider to be the most complicated year in which various tracks existed. The soul lived in me even might change continuously along the year in order to get well-adjusted to the track. In the other side, annual problems like insecurity, anxiety and thing related to self-doubt have become more common since they often come to me in daily basis. That’s okay for sure! I might get down and stress out about many things but thanks to them, they have improved me in many ways. Yet, 2018 is really something! There are many good things happened that i should be grateful for, one of them is attending my chairmate’s wedding ceremony and being able to meet old friends. There are also many insighful convos, funny scenes and silly jokes saved in mind. Then, how am i supposed to describe 2018 in a very simple way? Amazing year? Wonderful year? It is a challenging and blessing year instead!
And, this is it, my highlighted-point of 2018:
Follow the timeline! : I'm a deadliner and i have been getting used to it since the first time i became colleague student. I like to make a timeline though, such a contrast, i know. In fact, i got assignments done on time back then so i became more common to work in a rush without sacrificing quality. I was fine until i found out that i was sick of being deadliner last year. The timeline i used to follow has become useless, i ruined it. Yes, i realised that these past years i had followed the deadline, not the timeline. For me, the word deadline sounds scarier than timeline since it is linked to powerful impact. I might make timeline, i even write it down and design it with colorful pens but i am lack of commitment to follow it. So, this year, i have to build unwavering commitment to follow the timeline i made. I have also come to the realization that timeline is not just about words but more than that, it is important thing that related to long-term framework. One thing that i should remember is that following the timeline will help me to stay focus on my life goals. What i mean by that is by following the timeline, i will become more aware of the possibility of doubting my goals in the midst of journey.
Be calm! : 2018 is such a rush race for me, i did most works (7/10) in a rush tempo and got things done like there was someone ran after me. Of course, this has something to do with the habit of mine that i tend to start work when the deadline is almost up. Then i will get my work done in a hurry (in a way that you will find it fast or even super fast but still prioritize quality) since i realize that completion deadline is fast approaching. In the other side, i am kind of people who will get upset when i have to work fast but i am surrounded by a slow-paced and less-cooperative environment. As the result, i will end up doing all things alone and walk even faster to make sure that everything is done in time. Therefore, this year, i want to master calmness and control emotions so i could enjoy the journey more.
Love yourself! : It is not a rare case for people to have encountered comparison in life, and i am not the exception. There’s time when i start to compare myself to others and imagine what would it be if i become someone else. Besides, i often question my character; particularly about how can some natures live within me and why such tendencies grow inside me. Sometimes, i also wonder about people's projection on me and i don’t know why, i always end up assuming that they don't like me or hey, i feel like i'm not a good person to be friends with. Perhaps i am adoring others much that i find it easy to compare them to me or build negative assumption of me rather than embrace what i already have. Thats okay! Dont worry about me! I am glad to realize that i constantly get improved as i have become more familar with comparison. I even had my mind attached to this words, “You are not everyones cup of tea” already and understood its meaning much better than before. However, i still have to ensure my well-being and my wholeness so i will be more aware of any forms of comparison; then stop it right away! Ensuring my well-being can also mean that i have to love myself more and be proud of whatever i have in life. Just like Bernard Grasset said, “To love is to stop comparing”. By loving myself more, i will be less comparing myself to others. By loving myself more, i will be realizing that i have enough then i find contentment by cherising them everyday. I will also treat people as well as i treat myself and be care less about what they might think of me. Thats what i must do by now!
Overcome your insecurity! : Finally, this is the key which plays the main role in causing some points above. If i have to set these highlighted-point in causal order, then it will be this way: insecurity comes, it affects me on how i see myself, then i start comparing myself to others which later lead me to get stuck in the state of not knowing what to do and when i have regained my consciousnes, i will end up doing things in a hurry. Thats it! Insecurity is a strong and unavoidable feeling existed in me. Yet, it is not only me, everyone also has their own forms of insecurity to overcome with. What makes us different from each other is how we react to it. We can not avoid it, we can only overcome it so it wont destroy us. The points above have actually answered the question, "How to overcome insecurity?" Of course, we can try to overcome it by loving ourselves more, owning our progress, playing our role well and understand that we are not everyone's cup of tea. Like i said before, whatever people might think about us or their response to us, let it be their business! Dont ever let their business intefere our focus! Therefore, in this year, i will learn about how to overcome my insecurity more and implement them better than i did last year.
Okay, that is my highligted-point, in a bit long explanation. To be honest, i feel so much better after i write them down here. Besides, i believe that highlighting some points of last year journey will be a powerful reminders in terms of goal setting and personal growth for us. It will help us to avoid the repetition of the past mistakes. It will also follow us, evolve with us and later make impacful change for us if only we let it live! Yes, let it live within us because that’s the only way to always remember what and why we mark or highligh some points in our previous journey.
Do you have your highlighted-points? If you have, then don't hesitate to share! By sharing it, you do not just help me and people out there to remember our own points, you also help yourself to make those words keep alive in you. So, go find your highlighted-points! Share them! And, let them live!
Last but not least, do not forget to be happy and live your life to the fullest! Happy 2019, everyone :)
Warm regard,
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