Hi! How’s your life? It’s been
quite a while yaaa, but first, i would like to wish you a happy and blessed eid.
It’s a bit late though, i am sincerely asking you to forgive me for all
my mistaken, for misunderstanding and for bad words. I will always be open for
any suggestions and discussions, so lets keep in touch through my post!
Okay, you might also have known that we do not only learn from our mistakes, we can also learn from other’s
mistake, right? Sometimes, what’ve happened to them has given us a little spark
of fire to light our journey. Yes, this post is about people’s around me. This
post is kind of reminder for me, for you and for us that we are all just human.
We will always have that black dot that we can not hide from anyone else in
this world or just put it in our back no matter how flawless you might think
you are.
Here’s the story. I know a man whose track record is awesome (you have to check his linkedin account, wew!) and his attitude is pretty good, typically liked by all type of women out there. In addition, he’s HR people, he loves to observe, preach and spend his most of time around people. Thats why he tends to solve problem from many perspectives since he has learned many cases from various people. Yes, for me, he’s kind of man who will wisely choose whats best for him and for sure, he will put many aspects in his decision making process.
It was about three months ago when i found out that he had closed all his social media account. He even wrote a status in FB but i couldnt understand what did that mean. I was so clueless and he seemed like he wanted no one to ask him why.
I wondered why he decided to do that without any explanations.
I wondered why, a kind of man like him chose that way as if he had no time to think twice.
I wondered why, his experienced-HR-people side had to come up with that kind of idea instead of looking for another one.
Those never-ending “i wonder why” kept on popping up in my mind at that time. I was so over them and i really wanted to solve them.
Now, i realize that he -my friend- is just a human, he has his own perspective and whatever happen to him, he has his own way to response. Yes, the answer is just as simple as that. Who’s me anyway till i want to get involved in a battle that he might have won? Who’s me till i question his decision? Who’s me till i think about the probability of him taking a wrong decision?
One certain thing is that i have to stop labelling people by their traits or natures. I also have to stop myself for expecting people to always do a-make-sense-act or give proper response toward anything. We are all just human with our own surprising side ready to roar. Somehow, we will make a decision that is impossible for people to understand and it is only us, ourselves, who know the reason why. If i look back to the past and to whatever have hit me back then, i find myself doing exactly just the same as what my friend has done. I once closed my instagram account within a certain period of time and for the reason, i just did that for avoiding me from certain people. It sounds funny, right? Yeah, that was the best decision i could take at that time anyway.
“What happens to you is what shapes you” has led me to write this post then. I could not entirely understand that words but i find it reasonable for me to put that words as a highlighted-point of this post.
About two months ago, my friend -whom i have mentioned before- posted a picture on Instagram. He even updated his Instagram story and told his followers that he was back. For sure, I was glad to see him back and was beyond relieved to know that he reconsidered his decision. Even though he did not give a direct statement about his consideration, the fact that he was finally back to Instagram had said it all.
The day after that day, he wrote a post, he revived his “medium” account and broke his own limitation. Yes, he used to be afraid of writing. He once said that he was lack of writing skill. He even declared that he preferred to speak in front of thousands of people instead of writing his thoughts in a blog or any other platforms. Great! He had unlocked one of his limitations right after his comeback on Instagram. Neither I nor the people around him got shocked over this - for he always tried to do his best in any occasions.
Anyway, if you wonder about what has happened to him, you are not alone! Even until now, I still have no idea about it and I have no intentions to ask for an explanation. One important clue given by him is about vulnerability. Then I will ask you this: What’s the very first possible reason related to the vulnerability that pops up in your mind? More than half of you would have the same answer as mine, am I right? Well, he must have a reason and that is what the people around him believe about.
So, what is the point?
Many things happen to us and the way we react to them is what matters the most. We can not expect one or even ourselves to always be strong and unbeatable in any kind of conditions. Besides, we can build a new concept that everyone has their own kind of vulnerability since they have gone through different kind of storms. By putting that concept into our mind, we will later see that we are different but we are completely connected.
We get connected by the hurt caused by the storm which once hit us. We get connected by the fact that we are human and we are imperfect. We get connected by the existence of birth and death. We get connected in a way that we never really understand why but we always find it reasonable.
Summary, we experience bad and good times in life. Even when we expect to have a long calm road ahead, we will always meet a hard rocky road along the journey. One thing that we should underline is that there will always be life lessons that we can learn about after we have gone through a certain situation.
As the closing statement, these word are enough to sum up this post:
With love,
Here’s the story. I know a man whose track record is awesome (you have to check his linkedin account, wew!) and his attitude is pretty good, typically liked by all type of women out there. In addition, he’s HR people, he loves to observe, preach and spend his most of time around people. Thats why he tends to solve problem from many perspectives since he has learned many cases from various people. Yes, for me, he’s kind of man who will wisely choose whats best for him and for sure, he will put many aspects in his decision making process.
It was about three months ago when i found out that he had closed all his social media account. He even wrote a status in FB but i couldnt understand what did that mean. I was so clueless and he seemed like he wanted no one to ask him why.
I wondered why he decided to do that without any explanations.
I wondered why, a kind of man like him chose that way as if he had no time to think twice.
I wondered why, his experienced-HR-people side had to come up with that kind of idea instead of looking for another one.
Those never-ending “i wonder why” kept on popping up in my mind at that time. I was so over them and i really wanted to solve them.
Now, i realize that he -my friend- is just a human, he has his own perspective and whatever happen to him, he has his own way to response. Yes, the answer is just as simple as that. Who’s me anyway till i want to get involved in a battle that he might have won? Who’s me till i question his decision? Who’s me till i think about the probability of him taking a wrong decision?
One certain thing is that i have to stop labelling people by their traits or natures. I also have to stop myself for expecting people to always do a-make-sense-act or give proper response toward anything. We are all just human with our own surprising side ready to roar. Somehow, we will make a decision that is impossible for people to understand and it is only us, ourselves, who know the reason why. If i look back to the past and to whatever have hit me back then, i find myself doing exactly just the same as what my friend has done. I once closed my instagram account within a certain period of time and for the reason, i just did that for avoiding me from certain people. It sounds funny, right? Yeah, that was the best decision i could take at that time anyway.
“What happens to you is what shapes you” has led me to write this post then. I could not entirely understand that words but i find it reasonable for me to put that words as a highlighted-point of this post.
About two months ago, my friend -whom i have mentioned before- posted a picture on Instagram. He even updated his Instagram story and told his followers that he was back. For sure, I was glad to see him back and was beyond relieved to know that he reconsidered his decision. Even though he did not give a direct statement about his consideration, the fact that he was finally back to Instagram had said it all.
The day after that day, he wrote a post, he revived his “medium” account and broke his own limitation. Yes, he used to be afraid of writing. He once said that he was lack of writing skill. He even declared that he preferred to speak in front of thousands of people instead of writing his thoughts in a blog or any other platforms. Great! He had unlocked one of his limitations right after his comeback on Instagram. Neither I nor the people around him got shocked over this - for he always tried to do his best in any occasions.
Anyway, if you wonder about what has happened to him, you are not alone! Even until now, I still have no idea about it and I have no intentions to ask for an explanation. One important clue given by him is about vulnerability. Then I will ask you this: What’s the very first possible reason related to the vulnerability that pops up in your mind? More than half of you would have the same answer as mine, am I right? Well, he must have a reason and that is what the people around him believe about.
So, what is the point?
Many things happen to us and the way we react to them is what matters the most. We can not expect one or even ourselves to always be strong and unbeatable in any kind of conditions. Besides, we can build a new concept that everyone has their own kind of vulnerability since they have gone through different kind of storms. By putting that concept into our mind, we will later see that we are different but we are completely connected.
We get connected by the hurt caused by the storm which once hit us. We get connected by the fact that we are human and we are imperfect. We get connected by the existence of birth and death. We get connected in a way that we never really understand why but we always find it reasonable.
Summary, we experience bad and good times in life. Even when we expect to have a long calm road ahead, we will always meet a hard rocky road along the journey. One thing that we should underline is that there will always be life lessons that we can learn about after we have gone through a certain situation.
As the closing statement, these word are enough to sum up this post:
How you react to what happens to you is important because it is what shapes you.
With love,
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